Blog 2 07/02/08
Infidelity
An act of infidelity is when the mutually agreed rules (monogamy) of a relationship are abused.
Infidelity
An act of infidelity is when the mutually agreed rules (monogamy) of a relationship are abused.
On a very serious note I was interested to find just how many websites there are dedicated to helping people who have been a victim of infidelity.
These type of sites are plentiful, and cover everything from looking for the signs to survival.
Another webpage I came across , was an observer article written by Pamela Druckerman. It has some facinating statistics... Ill share a few with you here, then set yourself half hour or so aside to follow the link, the article is fairly lengthy.
*The Japanese dont count infidelity, if they have paid for it!
*extreemly islamic indonesian woman have affairs for exactly the same reason we hear of western marriges all the time, "my husband doesnt listen to me etc..."
*On average the British cheat more than Americans, and the French.
When we talk about infidelity, most of us quickly associate it with having an affair or liaison with someone who is not their partner; however I found the following to be quite interesting and thought I would share it with you.
Infidelity describes the act of breaching some kind of contract; it is not always dependant on sexual behaviour.
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What about emotional infidelity, which then raises the question about religion. Religion as we are all aware is based on faith, the same as a marriage or partnership is, what happens when someone of faith begins to doubt? Or perhaps starts researching other, perhaps more convenient religions, or only “loosely” follows what their religion dictates until it doesn’t suit them? Are they cheating in the same way? Just because their faith in a God does not appear as a physical person does in a relationship, they wouldn’t, for example ever have to try and cover their tracks and lie to someone face, is there really any differences?
Please indulge me with your thoughts……….
Annette Lawson is the story of adultery gendered?
During the lecture session we read through the above and discussed, in groups if we agreed with her or not. She suggests that woman who cheat can become “empowered” and even choose the life she wishes to lead by wisely picking educated and/or wealthy men.
Umm I found myself thinking, it all sounded like she may have, herself been in a troubled marriage, it seemed to be written in a very subjective manor.
She almost glorified the act of adultery, but then how could you write about such a subject in any depth without first having experienced it?
From a different point of view I can see that if you were that type of person, * (and I will elaborate on what I believe that type of person is), and you were able to either A) have casual extra marital affairs at no emotional cost or B) Choose a partner entirely based on his wallet or position of power (and have no emotional needs) then her theory would actually be very useful.
* “That type of person: One with little or no morals, one who also has no real need for emotional attachment or stability. One who can systematically lie with no feelings of guilt or betrayal towards her unsuspecting partner.
What struck me the most during this lecture is what she suggests is really not about improving your quality of life, rather more lowering your standards and becoming lazy, we now live in an equal rights society, if a woman really wants something she can get it just the same way as a man would, for example if a woman wants a position of power that allows her to travel she can just as well get one as any man could.
So all in all I don’t think what Lawson is telling us has any real use in today’s society, unless of course you are “one of those people”.
2 comments:
Hello Em,
I thought i'd drop you a comment here. I was so surprised at myself after reading 'The Unbearable Lightness of Being' by Milan Kundera, in order to complete the first essay for this module. What I initially thought was a cut and dried issue in my mind, resolved by a relatively simple arrangement of mutually agreed ethics within a relationship, turned out to be nothing of my sort. The book in question scrambled my views on infidelity so much that not only have I abandoned all my previous thoughts on the topic, but in many ways my views on many aspects of it have made an about turn! In short, I previously considered Infidelity to be wrong aned that was that. It was a 'lack of self control' and 'ultimate betrayal' in my eyes and I was resolute. However, after 'The Unbearable Lightness...', I now believe that there can be many circumstances where infidelity can be condoned ethically.
Like all things in Philosophy (least of all logic!) 'Its just SOOO complicated!!!...
Can I please Borrow that book now you have read it and you have become enlightened?!
I find it quite hard to imagine feeling that way about infidelity, whilst I understand why people do it, I don’t weather I could ever personally condone it.
(She said whilst sat polishing her Halo)
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